NOVEMBER 2015 ;e Costco Connection 69
By Jacqueline Whitmore
BEING A GOOD guest means putting your best foot
forward and keeping it there, lest you be asked to take
it, and the rest of you, away. Whether you’re
planning to visit friends or relatives this holiday season,
it’s always a good idea to take your manners along.
To ensure that you stay in the good graces of
others and get invited back, here are a few simple, yet
oft-forgotten, tips to make your stay more enjoyable.
Plan ahead. Talk to your host and confirm
the exact dates of your visit. Don’t stretch out your
visit after you arrive, unless unforeseen circumstances arise.
Arrive on time. If you’re running late or if your
plans get derailed, let your host know as soon as
possible. And be prepared to pay for your own
transportation if the host has other obligations or is
unable to pick you up.
Keep the lines of communication open.
When you arrive at your host’s home, mention any
habits you may have. For example, are you an early
riser or do you stay up late? Inquire about any
house rules, and adjust to your host’s way of life
Go with the flow. Don’t expect to be constantly
entertained. Be prepared to entertain yourself
whenever your host has other plans or has to work.
Be clear about your food preferences. If you
have food sensitivities or follow a special diet, share
that information with your host. It’s also a good idea
to bring your own snacks and not expect your host
to cater to your dietary habits.
Lend a helping hand. Make your bed, tidy up
your bathroom, put your used towel back on the
rack and clear your dishes when you’re finished eating. Offer to buy groceries or take the host out to
dinner once or twice during your visit. If you borrow your host’s car, refill the tank. At the end of
your stay, take the sheets off and put them at the
foot of your bed.
Don’t bring uninvited guests without your
host’s permission. That includes your pet, child,
significant other or friend. If you’re permitted to
bring someone, choose your companion carefully.
An ill-mannered guest can reflect poorly on you.
Bring a small gift. Popular selections include
unique jams or chutneys, a nice bottle of wine or
Champagne, a flowering plant, fine chocolates or
some handmade goodies. Tailor the gift to your
host’s home décor, taste or personality.
Show your appreciation. If you want to leave a
lasting impression, send a handwritten thank-you
note as soon as possible. An email will suffice but
doesn’t have the same impact. This kind gesture will
help ensure that you are invited back again. C
Jacqueline Whitmore ( etiquetteexpert.com)
is an international etiquette expert, author and
founder of The Protocol School of Palm Beach.
HOSPITALITY IS the art
of making guests feel comfortable, welcome and at
home. Follow these tips to
ensure your guests’ visits
will be memorable.
Be on time. No one
likes to be left waiting on
the curb for an extended
period of time. Be there to
warmly greet your guests as
soon as they arrive.
Stock up. Make your
guests feel welcome with a
variety of snacks. Stock up
on the essentials, too. You
don’t want to run out of laundry detergent, toilet paper,
paper towels or tissues.
Tidy up. Make your
home as inviting as possible.
Put fresh linens on the bed
and fresh flowers and a bottle of water on the nightstand. Even if a guest has to
sleep on the couch, provide
a set of comfortable sheets
and blankets so it will look
and feel cozy.
Provide the essentials.
Provide a few clean towels,
washcloths and an extra
toothbrush (just in case the
guest forgets to bring one).
It’s also a nice gesture to
provide a few travel-size
shampoos, conditioners and
coffee and tea. Start the
day off right by serving your
guests the best coffee and
tea you can afford. It’s the
little luxuries that make a
Show your guests a
good time. Be a gracious
host by taking your guests
to some of your favorite
shops, attractions and restaurants. If you have to work
or have other obligations,
put some local magazines,
newspapers, maps and
transportation schedules in
your guests’ room in case
they want to sightsee on
Guest, not pest
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TO BE AN
Be the best guest this holiday season